"R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me"

Ok, what is respect?

According to the dictionary

respect
1. A feeling of appreciative, often deferential regard; esteem.
2. The state of being regarded with honor or esteem.
3. Willingness to show consideration or appreciation.

To me it is the right of EVERY individual
You CAN lack respect to someone who doesn't understand this simple fact and therefore, lacks you respect.

True that I believe if you don't respect yourself, chances are people won't respect you. There are bloodsuckers out there who take advantage of people, play with others minds...You have to respect yourself, whoever you are. And it's a simple start: LOVE YOURSELF, THE WAY YOU ARE!!! BECAUSE YOU ARE GREAT AND UNIQUE!!!


Women are being objectified EVERYDAY, take a stand! And by that I do not mean to not dress sexy or anything, I mean, if you do, respect yourself. Don't give to just anyone the honor to dance with you in a club, talk to you on the streets, touch you. Guys have to learn to respect you and how will they if you don't respect yourself? Don't try to be sexy, provocative or anything you're not only to get attention. 'Cause you will get attention but no respect. What's that worth?

If you're naturally sexy, provocative or whatever, that's great, be yourself BUT don't let anyone lack you respect. And if you're not sure what that is go back to the definition. A guy who a walk up to you with only one idea in mind has got to know it won't be easy! From Deliver Us from Eva, a quote: "If you want to go out with me, realise it means being a gentleman. Understand that it means respecting my mind, my body and spirit." And this is from a random guy's profile online: "I respect the chicks who treat themselves like they are worth something, and don't just go throwing everything away."

Yeah, Christina Aguilera's with Lil' Kim song was pretty cool ("Can't Hold Us Down") But let's get back into the real world shall we??!! SOCIETY IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE!!! NOT THAT WAY!!! It's ridiculous really, you listen to that song and think it's empowering to women...I did! And you know what???!!! It's not!!! It's diminishing! "Genie In a Bottle" had a WAY more empowering message!! Lol, sad to say...

Let me show you what I mean, the song is partly positive but MAN, the video AND those parts of the song:

"If you look back in history
It's a common double standard of society
The guy gets all the glory the more he can score
While the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore"

"This is for my girls all around the world
Who've come across a man who don't respect your worth" (Now THAT'S positive but after what she said right b4 it's plain funny! Men whores exist as well!)

And there's Lil' Kim now:

"Check it - Here's something I just can't understand
If the guy have three girls then he's the man
He can either give us some head, sex her off
If the girl do the same, then she's a whore
But the table's about to turn
I'll bet my fame on it
Cats take my ideas and put their name on it
It's aiight though, you can't hold me down
I got to keep on movin'
To all my girls with a man who be tryin to mack
Do it right back to him and let that be that
You need to let him know that his game is whack
And Lil' Kim and Christina Aguilera got your back"

THREE GIRLS so what?? Girls should do the same and have three guys???!!! Oh, and I've played that song, not proud to say it but I felt she was so right. But she's wrong!!! So don't fall into the trap!


MEN

Ok, I won't say all men are pigs, I know better. But if you do meet a woman with no self-respect, maybe it would be nice to offer a helping hand instead of judging or taking advantage of the situation. And all the players, pimps etc... Let's grow from that stupid trend of gangstas pimps and hoes!!! Come on, what's with everyone? You like seeing yourself like this? Like a big idiot who thinks women are disposable toys? How would you feel being treated like that?

Anyone who acts like this is an obstacle to evolution. Is that what you wanna be? This blog was mostly for women 'cause I believe the first step has to be made by us. But if all men would look at what I said before about helping a girl that doesn't respect herself (and in a classy manner please.) I know not all guys like those girls but some tell them to have some respect for themselves in a rude way and not showing respect at all!

I know there are some good men out there and not all women would give it up for just anything so GET OVER IT!!! Help instead of being part of the problem. If we're going to change something it takes one person to offer a helping hand to another. We can do this. And let's turn around the words pimp and bitch! Anyways did that word ever have a true meaning? A girl is too easy she's a bitch, she blows you off, she's a bitch! My girl and I are rewriting a song to send a more positive message and I agree with this part of Christina's song:

"Call me a bitch cos I speak what's on my mind
Guess it's easier for you to swallow if I sat and smiled"

THIS is what we need so until Fashionably Late makes it (my group) well, let's keep seeing bitch for this! ;)

I also wanna add that a great song(and singer!) ;) Would be "A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys...

Cuz a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

So please know and recognize your worth ladies, then the world won't deny it! ;)

RESPECT YOURSELVES AND THE WORLD WILL RESPECT YOU!!!