Love yourself the way you are...

Why is it so hard to accept that we are a certain way? Of course there are always some things we can change but not everything. And why do we want to change whatever it is we want to change? Hapiness?! Well here's my 2 cents!

I'm a freak in certain ways, well maybe not but I suffer from anxiety a lot. My little remedy?! "Don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff" by Richard Carlson. Yeah, if you're like me, I'll even go further and suggest the audio book. It's a real unexpensive therapy. ;) I can't quite remember what exactly the lines says but it's something like that: "Wherever you are going, you're already there." (The basic idea is still there.) As in, like he says, we always think we need more to be happy. But hapiness starts right there with us. Doesn't it? It's a bit like the Good Mood story, you choose how anything and everything affect you.

So...if you choose to love yourself the way you are, will it matter what other people say? Hell, the other day I went out, and I was dressed extremely sexy I gotta say. I was thinking I went overboard but still I was like :Ok. too bad, I'm already out, I look good, I'm sexy it's all good. I'm walking, on my way to the bus stop, this idiotic judgemental guy who's with his friends, probably wanted to whisper, but I heard, says: "she's such a slut." Now in my mind I went like , wait a minute...but I just kept walking! Why? 'Cause I chose it wouldn't affect me! He thinks I dress too sexy...ok, that makes me a slut? To his eyes maybe.

So let say, for example, that I'm fat. Someone calls me a big fat ugly pig. Well, should I let it affect me? Nope. Why? Simple, maybe I'm not the prettiest of the bunch and maybe I'm fat but it's ok, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it's for sure someone will see past that. I say that to anyone who doesn't feel right. Lately my friend's been stressing over a guy who said he wasn't interested to be with someone and then his with someone not so long after. Yeah, the other person is fit and god looking so my friend is obssesing.

"I'm not good looking enough, I'm not fit enough, I'm not attractive, this is killing me." Sad, because no one deserves to feel this way, but you know what? We're doing this to ourselves! Like I told my friend, do you really want to be with a stupid superficial person? Someone who won't love you for all that you are? My friend is good looking, not rreally fat, not the gym type but who cares? Maybe he did. But someone great who won't will come along.

I say unless it's a question of life and death be realistic. If you want to change, go ahead, but don't think your whole life will come tumbling don't if you don't! you have the right to mess up. Even fail. If you stay the same it's alright, 'cause that's who you are and it's the only way to stay true to yourself. You may see yourself as more attractive in a certain way when others won't! It's alright.

And before heading out for a change, boobs job, weight lost, muscle shaping, make sure it's for yourself and that you already love yourself the way you are. Also ask yourself if it's really going to bring you what you want or just an illusion. Sometimes it's all it brings in the end...deception. If you don't love yourself to start with, you're only starting the change and it will never end!

Listen to the song "Unpretty" by TLC if it's a guy that's pressuring you to change!

AND Love yourselves!!!

I do! :)